With spring in the air and love fluttering around our hearts, I’d like to introduce a very beautiful couple who are absolutely crazy about each other and overflowing with cuteness! Congratulations Ray & Asha!!!
R: I first saw Asha perform at an event at the Red Rattler and she took my breath away. It wasn’t until at least another six (?) months later that we actually met at a roller derby game where she was the score girl… Over the next few months we spoke nearly every day, she went to Hong Kong I racked up a couple of grand in phone bills and that is pretty much that…
A: It’s funny though, because we keep realizing all these times where we have met before and not known it. Ray Ray had been to one of my housewarmings, and there’s a bunch of things like that, over nearly ten years, like a movie romance, we were meant to be!
*What’s the most romantic thing that you have done for each other?
R: Aside from proposing I think the most romantic thing I’ve done for Asha would be last Valentines Day. I downloaded Top Hat (her fave Fred Astaire movie) drove to the beach picking up fish and chips on the way, I turned the back of the car into a bed and we sat there with the ocean as a backdrop watching the movie… It was awesome!
A:That valentines day was so incredible! But also, I think that we both do romantic things all the time. We both try and find little ways of surprising the other with romantic things, and it’s safe to say we do something romantic every day. Be it surprise flowers, or occasionally something more risqué…
*Your happiest moment together?
R: That’s easy, when we agreed to start the process of having kids!
*What do you love most about each other?
R: I love Asha’s passion for injustice and willingness to throw herself on the fire for anyone who has been wronged…
A: I love Ray’s intelligence and passion. I love the way they do what they believe in, and be them self in the face of anything.
*You’re engaged!!! We’re so excited for you and dying to hear all the details! Who asked who? How? Where?
R: I asked Asha to marry me in the kitchen one night. We had been pottering round the house all day, playing old records, swapping stories about songs, dancing, Then when it came to start cooking she just looked so perfect, she looked like home and I knew it was right.
*What’s your vision for your big day? (big or intimate, in Australia or overseas, formal/relaxed…?)
R: Well we really are all about home and family. Thus we decided to have the wedding at our place, all the family from both sides have little jobs so it doesn’t get to overwhelming… Not too big, not too small… Given Asha’s cultural background the food will be Greek (yes!)… It’s a little scary sometimes dealing with all the organizing but I’m learning to delegate… We just want everyone to have an awesome party, and be with us when we walk down the aisle!
A: We’ve let the aesthetic of the wedding evolve through conversation and sharing ideas. We bounce things off each other, and they become real things that we want at the wedding. All the discussions have been so constructive and exciting. We want it to reflect who we are as a couple, so we are doing most of it ourselves, from the flowers to the invitations… *What has the response been from your friends and family?
R: My family and friends are all into it, I’m really lucky to be out and accepted completely with all my mob!
A: My family is really excited. They love Ray Ray and are really happy I’ve found someone who fits with me so well.
*Do you have hope for Marriage Equality in Australia anytime soon?
R: I hope so, but I don’t think so…
A: I think it might happen slowly, there’s been talk in Tasmania of bringing it in there, so it might be a domino effect. I also think they should just push it through so people can start looking at other ways people of diverse sexes, genders and sexualities are discriminated against. Just pass it, already, so all those resources can go into things like support for young GLBTIQ people. It just seems so backwards to me…
*What does getting married mean to you both?
R: Well, I’ve always had quite traditional views on relationships and their path, I always had full intentions of proposing to the right partner, my primary partner. It means security, love, and the proper foundation to build and grow the family that I want to have. And Asha gives me the strength to go forward with all of these things. Legalities don’t mean anything to me; it’s the act and commitment that I’m going to share with her.
A: To me, getting married is really about starting a family, whether or not kids are a part of that, though we do want kids. It means telling someone that there is nothing so big it cannot be worked out, and making the commitment to work things through. It’s finding the person you want by your side in the hardest times, and find ways to get back to the good times. And it means sharing our intentions with our families and friends and bringing them all together.
*A note to Ray & Asha – We couldn’t be happier for you both! Thank you so much for sharing your adorable love story… it’s left us super excited about your up and coming wedding (were in hope you’ll be posting the photo’s here). Congratulations!!! From Cushla & Tan @ Two Birds Nest x x x